When my grandmother was a little girl, she decided to “help” the baby chicks hatch from their eggs. She didn’t realize that her “help” would actually kill them. She wanted to make lives easier and to protect them from the struggle and hardship of hatching; but in doing so, she kept them from going through the natural process that God designed (to make them strong enough to survive this world) and they died because of her “help”. She had the best of intentions, but her “help” didn’t help.
The negative effects of helping a chick hatch form its shell are:
1) It will bleed to death because of your “hep” before the blood vessels of the egg have shut down and you will some of them
2) By interfering too early, the chick will not have enough time to strengthen its legs by PUSHING against the shell resulting in weak legs or damaged hip sockets or spraddle
3) By handling it while it is wet and not able to stand on its own, you will transfer pathogens to the chick
There have been many times in my life that I didn’t want to go through the process God had designed for me. He wanted to make me strong enough to survive this world but I wanted life to be easy, fun, and painless. I’ve tried to do things my own way and take the easier, quicker, less painful path to get to where I wanted to go only to find out that God’s way was far better than my own and that He was preparing me for a better future. I’ve wanted the end results (to be stronger, healthier, and happier) without going through the work. I’ve wanted instant gratification and I didn’t want to go through the training that would teach me HOW to be stronger, healthier, and happier, but doing things my own way has never worked well.
Even though the training I’ve gone through in my life (through the school of hard knocks) has been difficult and I didn’t want to be going through, it was always worth it. The real-life training I received prepared me to survive my own future and also to help others going through similar circumstances.
2 Corinthians 3-4 (English Standard Version) “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”
The troubles, trials, and tribulations I’ve gone through have been difficult, heartbreaking, and overwhelming and I’ve often thought I wouldn’t survive; but with God’s help, I did. People often ask why I chose to become a counselor and it’s sometimes hard to put into words but here are some of the reasons:
1) My training to become a counselor helped me to deal with some of my own issues. I was a student learning how to help others but the training also helped me in overcoming my past.
2) I’ve been through a lot of difficulties in my life so not only do I have sympathy for others, but I also have empathy – I KNOW what it feels like to go through it.
3) I want to use my experiences to help others. I don’t want the lessons I’ve learned to ONLY be for my benefit – I want to help as many people as I can.
Isaiah 61:1-3 (New International Version) The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.”
I want to encourage you to keep going – to keep trying. I don’t know what you’ve gone through or are currently going through, but I know that you can make it – you CAN survive. It’s not easy, it’s not fun, it’s not what you wanted, and it often wasn’t your choice, but this is where you are and you can’t change that. You can’t make it go away by avoided it or not thinking about it. You can’t escape form it by self-medicating with drugs, alcohol, food, TV, work, exercise, or anything else you’ve tried. If what you’ve tried was going to work, it would have worked by now. How about trying something different – something new? I believe in you! I have faith in you! You CAN overcome what happened to you! If I can do it, anyone can! There’s nothing special or secretive about how I got through it or overcame it. The work I put into it – you can also put into it. The healing I experienced – you can experience. The help I had along the way – you can have.
Will it be easy? NO!!! Will it be fun? NO!!! Will it be quick? NO!!! Will it be worth it? ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!
Take steps to begin your healing journey TODAY! Don’t put it off. Don’t think it’ll go away or get better if you give it enough time. Don’t be like Scarlett O’Hara and think about it tomorrow – think about it and start your healing TODAY! Take one small baby step TODAY! Do one thing differently TODAY!